In the UK, almost 1 in 5 people have contemplated suicide at some point.
In 2020, the Mental Health Foundation reported that there were over 6,000 lives lost to suicide, meaning someone dies by suicide almost every 1.5 hours.
74.1% of suicides in England and Wales in 2022 were males.
However, despite these devastating statistics and increasing recognition of the problem, there remains a deep stigma attached to the issue and to those who struggle with suicidal ideation.
Such prevalent stigma can leave people feeling alone, ashamed, and frightened, making it even harder for those in distress to reach out for a helping hand.
But our language can also be empowering and supportive, and the difference between the two can affect attitudes and perceptions surrounding mental health. Negative or judgmental language reinforces stigma, while non-judgmental, supportive language plays a vital role in reducing the stigma of suicide and providing a safe and welcoming place where individuals feel respected and free to talk about their opportunities and challenges.
Through this blog, we aim to address the way we use language as a tool in the fight against suicide stigma and offer practical tips for how you can help to create a more compassionate culture.
The Impact of Stigma
The stigma surrounding suicide is very real, and it can be devastating for those with mental health problems. The shame, the alienation and the fear can feel like impossible barriers to reaching out for help when they need it most.
People who feel their thoughts of suicide are increasing might be hesitant to voice these feelings to anyone for fear of others judging them for being weak, unstable, or just not understanding their pain. This, in turn, might create a sense of hopelessness.
Furthermore, the stigma associated with suicide can even lead to negative consequences for the family and friends of those who've passed away. They can experience doubt, shame, blame and guilt, believing they could have prevented the outcome. The fear of this stigma can cause social isolation and emotional pain for those grieving the loss of a loved one.
This isn't to say that suicidal thoughts have only one cause or that stigma is wholly responsible for suicidal behaviours. But the fact remains: stigma compounds the problem, and it's even more difficult for a person to seek and receive help when they feel maligned just for being human. When enough of us begin to challenge misguided stereotypes of those experiencing suicidal ideation, we can create an environment for people in distress that encourages understanding and increases the likelihood that help will be sought and received.
The Power of Language
Language is a powerful tool; words can influence how we think and feel about ourselves and others. And this is especially true when it comes to sensitive topics that affect so many, like mental health and suicide.
Harmful language can reinforce negative stereotypes and stigma, making it difficult for individuals struggling with suicidal thoughts to seek help. For example, using phrases like "committed suicide" implies that taking one's own life is a crime, which can further isolate and shame those who are considering self-harm.
On the other hand, compassionate, non-judgmental and person-centred language can help to foster welcoming, supportive, relaxed and non-stigmatising interactions. The use of non-stigmatising language could help dismantle barriers to open communication.
Ultimately, words can heal as much as they can hurt. And in choosing our words we create cultures that help or harm.
Examples of Non-Judgmental and Supportive Language
When discussing suicide or mental health, it's essential to use language that is both compassionate and respectful. Here are some examples of non-judgmental and supportive language that you can use in various contexts:
Talking about suicide
- Instead of: "They committed suicide."
- Use: "They died by suicide." or "They ended their own life."
- Instead of: "Suicide is selfish."
- Use: "Suicide is a complex issue with many contributing factors."
Interacting with individuals who have experienced suicidal thoughts or behaviours
- Instead of: "You should be grateful you're still alive."
- Use: "I'm so glad you're here with us today."
- Instead of: "You're just seeking attention."
- Use: "It sounds like you're going through a really tough time. I'm here to listen."
Promoting mental health awareness
- Instead of: "People who attempt suicide are weak."
- Use: "Suicidal thoughts are a sign of distress, not weakness."
- Instead of: "Just snap out of it."
- Use: 'It's important to seek help if you're struggling with your mental health.'
By using these examples as a guide, we can create a more supportive and understanding environment for individuals who are struggling with suicidal thoughts or behaviours.
Creating a Safe Environment
To foster a supportive and inclusive environment where individuals feel comfortable discussing mental health concerns, it's essential to prioritise the following:
- Open Communication: Encourage open dialogue about mental health by creating a culture where individuals feel safe to express their thoughts and emotions without fear of judgment.
- Active Listening: Practice active listening by giving individuals your full attention, showing empathy, and validating their experiences.
- Empathy: Demonstrate empathy by understanding the challenges individuals may face and offering support without judgment.
- Non-Judgmental Attitudes: Create a non-judgmental atmosphere where individuals feel accepted and respected, regardless of their mental health experiences.
- Support Resources: Provide access to relevant support resources, such as helplines, counselling services, and mental health professionals.
- Training and Education: Offer training and education on mental health awareness and stigma reduction to equip individuals with the knowledge and skills to create a supportive environment.
By implementing these strategies, organisations can create a safe and welcoming space where individuals feel empowered to seek help and support when they need it most.
Conclusion
By using neutral, supportive language, we can begin to reduce the stigma surrounding suicide and create an atmosphere of greater tolerance for those suffering from mental health issues. We can break down the barriers to help and save lives through open discussion, empathy, and understanding.
Let's help dismantle the stigma of suicide together and support everyone in their journey so they can exist with others in a society that strengthens our connectedness and makes us all thrive.
If you're concerned about a friend, colleague, or family member, look at our recent blog, which shares tips for approaching a conversation with someone about their mental health.
